Let’s talk conflict avoidance.
It’s safe to assume that no one chases conflict, unless you’re a narcissist. Yet, some of us respond to conflict better than others. My personal method of dealing with strife is to, well, not deal. Which, turns out, is not ideal.
Big surprise: Avoiding a problem won’t make it go away. If I don’t talk about something that’s bothering me, that frustration builds into a much bigger issue. As a fun bonus, it’s usually then misdirected at a third-party who has no idea why I’m acting so hostile!
So, this is no doubt a lesson I’m still learning, but hard conversations are worth having. It might feel uncomfortable in the short-term, but conflict is normal. Figuring out how to navigate interpersonal tension is fun! This is a half-joke, but also, there is a certain amount of pleasure in learning how to approach conflict in a healthy, productive way.
TL;DR, don’t avoid your issues. Future you will be grateful.
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